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Monday, 28 April 2014

Help!! I'm 19 years old and feel so lonley without a boyfriend


Hi Tope,

I am a 19 year old junior in a reputable university in America. I came here in 2012 and it's really been stressful dealing with school without having my family by my side here.

In high school in Nigeria, I had a list that had all the qualities that I wanted in a guy (I was still really young then oh, lol). He needed to be tall, ambitious, funny, handsome, well-built, blah blah. All my friends kept rebuking me for being too picky cos I turned guys down like no man's business.

Tope, I turn 20 in October and I feel so lonely without a boyfriend. I have friends here but they are all in relationships so it's always awkward hanging out with them. I broke up with my last boyfriend in February because I wasn't happy with him anymore. I am still a virgin and I love God too. Infact, I think I would be a great girlfriend because I'm tall, very smart, ambitious, hardworking, and I get along with people. The only thing is that I am told that I'm too independent, too focused on my grades, and can be standoffish.

There are a few boys asking me out but I don't want any chewing gum guy for now cos even though I'm in College, my on-campus job pays well and has many financial incentives. I am ambitious, I want a man equally as ambitious as I am. I know a lot of other older students who are Nigerian too and are still looking for boyfriends. Most of them attend my church.

Am I over-reacting? Should I be patient? I go to parties a lot and I'm in many campus organizations so I know I'm putting myself out there. Are men just intimidated by me because of my strong character or what? I'm so sad...


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